Let me also add that you don't have to end your stand in order to GAL.
You do need to GAL to really DB, so that is part of the reason for my above post. You do need to DETACH, but that does not mean that you can not STAND for your your marriage. It is a tight rope I understand however maybe there are things you wanted to do in the past and had no time to do it. Take the time to do it now.
I have taken genetics classes, other classes on a platform called coursera, which are free. Maybe go hiking, or work out, there are lots of ways to GAL.
