Thank you so much to all of you! I have read and re-read what you wrote. I have research approach of the subject on line. I went back to when i was her age and how i saw the world and how i behaved. My mother kept a close eye on me but trusted in me to make smart decision. I did drink. I did experimente a few drugs. It was short lived because i knew i did not want that lifestyle as an adult. By the age of 17, i was moving out and beginning to create the life i wanted. The mature life. My mother supported me through it. She encouraged the positives and showed concerns with negatives but it was up to me to decide how it would be. I was mean to her a few times. Something i soon regretted as i understood why she did or said things.
Today, D16 made me proud and i sure told her. An incident happened in town while i went to pick her up on my lunch hour. A house was on fire across the street from the school. 2 kids came out of the alley. One of them was screeming arrogantly" they' re gonna f***ken blame it on me. Watch.. they' ll try to pin it on me. I don' t go to school here, i only smoke lots and lots of weeds. That' s why they' ll f***cken blame me". Of course, all the yelling was for the group of kids who were outside by the school. When i spotted who was screeming like this, i saw D16' s boyfriend with the kid who was yelling.( juvenille who is very well known by the cops and who my kids were forbidden to associate it.)
As D16 came out of the school, she saw her bf and who he was with. Her immediate reaction was to call bf' s mom to go and get him. D16 was surprised and upset.
His mom went to pick him up and she was MAD.
D16 went to her dentist appointm. Then straight to school. After school, we had to go to Timmins to load up S20' s stuff.
D16 was helpful, happy to be around her brother and sister and even asked to do some shopping. Usually, she wants to rush so she can be with bf.
She handled it the right way in my opinion. She stayed away from it. She called the person responsible for him. She showed her desapointment in his choices and she did not try to save him. Instead, she told him :" you are 18. You need to smarten up. You can' t be like this forever.".
Wow.. she hears me. She knows. She will be make it.
She went to meet him at Tim' s a short while ago. She has an hour with him. We' ll see how it went soon.
There is no word on what caused the fire yet. That kid is always portraying the bad a**, no one messes with me kind of kid. He does get into trouble often. Court and house arrest are things he knows well. If he had something to do with this fire, he would have bragged about a pay back. I do not see him responsable for it.
Anyway. D16 made me proud. She showed maturity. She did not want to get tangled in this mess and she handled her bf the right way.
