Yes, but perhaps you are setting the example of how you both worked through a very difficult time in the marriage. How to truly forgive and make the marriage better than it was before. In this day and age it's easier to walk away, that's what most people will tell you "kick him to the curb!"
Like Alison said, you are not there yet. Perhaps you won't get there. Focus on you.
BTW, I need to take my own advice. [/quote]
Thank you HBWife!
Who knows if we will ever get there. Right now I'm not so sure. Either way, perhaps I will show my children how to forgive, in time. My uncle cheated on my aunt and his children never forgave him. Only one child even speaks to him. He is still with the OW 20 yrs later. He does not know his grandchildren, and probably never will. It is very sad, but they were devastated. I do not want that for my children.
I am really feeling like I just need to let him go. I think I will be devastated if he moves out, but I think it may be the only way I can truly detach, and perhaps he will see what he is losing. Maybe he won't.
I guess I just need to continue to work on me. He'll leave if he wants to. It is definitely a bit awkward right now. Very little conversation between us and we are both keeping a bit of distance. He seemed almost proud as he left this afternoon without telling me where he was going. I think he thinks he is punishing me because I said I did not want to be his friend. I'm ok with it- he was probably going to feed me some lie anyway.
