I have read a lot on this forum about how important it is to give it everything you've got. To show your children that you did everything you could to save your marriage. I want to save my marriage. I want to restore my family. I truly do. But what about when there is an affair? What kind of an example am I setting for my adult children? I do not want them to think this is acceptable behavior in any relationship.
Yes, but perhaps you are setting the example of how you both worked through a very difficult time in the marriage. How to truly forgive and make the marriage better than it was before. In this day and age it's easier to walk away, that's what most people will tell you "kick him to the curb!"
Like Alison said, you are not there yet. Perhaps you won't get there. Focus on you.
