Had issues with my car last night and H offered ( on his own) to look at it. Today he is going to get a part to fix it. I told him I appreciated it and thanked him in advance.

I'm going to go out this weekend on my own to find something nice to wear for Mother's Day. I'll ask H if he can watch the kids while I go run an errand. Hopefully he will say yes. I guess if he says no, I'll take the kids with me.

Questions about deflecting intimacy....what does one say when WS tries to put the moves on you? I would like to say that I can't because I feel like I am cheating with the OW boyfriend. I know that sounds very harsh, so what's a better way to say no? Or that appropriate wording?