Also wanted to add, regarding the convo on the last page about the books you're reading and such- be mindful that the goal isn't to beat yourself up for being a horrible person with tons of faults and a bad husband. The goal is to identify weak areas in your life and work on improving yourself in those areas. It's far too common for the LBS to start reading all this stuff and come to the conclusion that everything is their fault and they are a horrible father, husband and person. If you were then you wouldn't be here, you would have been the one that BD'd and you'd be out having an affair with some floozy. Be mindful that YOU are a person with honesty and integrity and that yes you need to make some tweaks but no you are not an awful person that deserves this.
Thanks Stander. I am definitely the type to obsess about all my flaws and read too much to understand the other person, and it tends to not help. The reading I like right now is focusing on my self. What is helping me right now is focusing on myself, being positive & upbeat, having steadier emotions and confidence, and not letting W's reactions get to me as much as they did before... they still bother me, but I see a gradual change happening.
