J. The woman you initiated contact with, is the woman you ended up respecting and liking the most. I’m thinking a lot of guys (not all) consciously or subconsciously respect a woman more when they have to chase. When it’s not a sure thing. When dr withdrew, you mentioned your feelings for her intensified.
I’m not saying I’m going in with the intention of playing games. Ex bf loved me and wanted a future with me so what I did was not wrong. But i end up getting involved with men that aren’t right for me. My personality is not a personality that’s gonna do well with a guy that needs the woman to do all the work. I also was a bit too accepting of red flags or things that bothered me because I kept thinking, “well he’s not a cheater or drug user”.
This time around, I want a guy that’s more positive and that I have fun with. He would also have to be loyal and commitment seeking and financially responsible but at the same time generous and good with my son. Someone that’s intelligent - likes to read would be nice too (just putting it out to the universe) this time around I think we have to have more things in common. I dated before for the simple sake that ex was committed and loyal - thus safe, not because we were compatible.
I know I sound a little nutty and opinionated on these anonymous forums, but IRL I actually do well with things like dating and making good first impressions. I don’t think I have ever not been hired after an interview - and I tend to not get rejected on the short term (ex husband rejected me big time) . Someone here noted I’m a people pleaser and I think that’s why I do well but also what keeps me in relationships that are not right for me. I’m not a pushy person and I know how to keep things light and fun without pressure.
I think the guy should go in for the first kiss if he’s feeling chemistry but maybe not on the coffee or drink interview.
