At the moment, I think that MC would involve me listening to him blame me for everything that has gone wrong. I have no evidence at all that he's interested or able to listen. I also don't know I have the ability to cope with listening to more of his bile, or that even if I could cope with it, it would be productive or useful in terms of either R or moving towards an amicable divorce.
But that might just be fear. He has made some small changes, and so have I. I've no idea what inner work he's doing, nor what affect the change in his working circumstances will have on his stress levels and his ability to be empathic.
I think I need more time to figure out how much of my reluctance is fear that I can overcome, and how much of it is wisdom based on evidence.
