Maika and J when the moms only have the kids 50 percent of the time and they put dating first it tells you something. In my case, and in Gingers we have our kids the majority of the time - (I have son at least 80% of the time and its actually much easier for me now then when ex husband and I were together ) and a break or even catch up helps a lot.
I agree with ginger that modern moms do have unrealistic expectations placed on them. In the past, kids went out and played all day with neighborhood kids while mom stayed home - cleaned, socialized. Now there is so much pressure to entertain your children all day long, chauffeur them to structured event after structured event, have a spotless home that looks like it belongs on hgtv and work as a professional. I think these new expectations are leading to depression and marital break down.
At first I was disappointed that my son wasn’t into team sports. (Especially since he is so hyperactive) but now I’m kind of grateful for the saved costs and travel and time. With him, I had to accept that the more I push, the more he pushes back. He loves martial arts and cooking and With certain personalities it’s easier to just follow what their interests are.
