I did start lurking. It’s interesting and I wanted to see if there’s anyone out there I can see myself with. The problem is you really don’t know who someone is till you meet them. My imagination can fill in things that are not real about someone based on a witty profile and that’s bad too. So I’m not gonna read anymore. I’m gonna put myself out there in 2 weeks and see what happens.
This time around, I am not going to write to any guys. I did that with ex bf. He had told me he stopped writing to women cause he never got any responses and just basically took a passive approach and waited. Well, I realized that passive approach means lazy and it carried into our whole relationship. This time around, if the guy does not have the energy or courage to approach me first I just don’t want to be bothered.
I think I am also going to set a certain amount of dates to go on with different men before I settle down with 1. Maybe 10 mandatory? I tend to like relationships so it’s easy for me to get exclusive quick. (I’m not sleeping with anyone unless I sense exclusivity though)
One of the things I read from guys is that they are looking to be friends first before a relationship and I get that some might not want to rush into a serious relationship. But I think that’s code for friends with benefits? Meet ups would be better for friendship as opposed to a dating site, no?
