She works 2 evening on 5 and 2 week-ends out of 3.
She is a good employee. Her grades are average and above.
Her bedroom is shameful and her friends are all drama of who has it worst.
She has a group of friends who constantly fight with one another.
She has been dating a high school drop-out for a year now. Through that year, he has not done anything to show maturity. He used to spend ALL of his time at my house. Not contributing to anything. Living off of me.Bumming cigarettes etc. My other 3 children do not like him at all and quite frankly, neitter do i.

D16 has a curfew of 10h30 pm. She obeys by this rule yet she finds the time to drink and smoke up. It is not an everyday thing but often enough for me to stand up and set boundaries before the school year end.

In regard of her bf. I have been thinking lately that if this guy means sooo much to her and we keep reprimanding him, we will loose her to him therefor, i got him a part-time job at the store last wefk.
To thank me and to celebrate, they drank and smoked up after his first day. Do i regret my decision? I thonk i made a huge mistake and now i lean towards making my move this summer.

I discussed it with my SIL and she thinks i am only fleaing and D16 would find the same kind of friends. She is in the age of experiment. I need to stay firm, alert and patience.

D16 said she knows and understand the why and tells me she will behave everytime she leaves the house. But she does not.

D18 told ex-h about the situation we have. He said if i want, he is willing to go see bf' s parents and tell them " HOW IT WILL BE ". He mentioned telling D16 she will be moving in with him if she does not smarten up. He knows she will not want that. He said he could send opp at their doors..

All of this is intimidation and use of power. D16 might turn against us all..

I will keep my eyes on her. A month and a half before school ends. I might ask D22 if she would be willing to take her in for a week. Until then, D18 is here. (She has alot of the inside scoop through mutual friends on what is going on). Most of it is friends and bf related.