Was his relationship with his adopted mother poor? Is she still living?
Yes, his relationship wasn't wonderful. He was the eldest of 7 and the stepmom introduced her oldest as the oldest, left him out of a pictures a few times, and did not send him to private school while she sent the rest of his siblings there. He has always felt out of place.
Originally Posted by AlisonUK
he's clearly not in a position to be repairing or restoring a marriage right now. I think you're going to have to sit back, sit tight and wait for this relationship with his mother to either implode or stabilise.
I agree with that. Usually it takes time for these obsessions to end, but this is at a crazy level. Who wants to leave their wife to live with their mother? Doesn't he want...ummm...? If so, where will he get that?
Originally Posted by AlisonUK
Do you have a church or synagogue or mosque or something like that?
We do, and he mentioned that one of our rabbi's emailed him to ask him how he was doing. He also stressed that he thought I'd ruined it for him. I told him that I took on the blame and admitted my own wrongs. I invited him to attend with me.
