Thanks for the recommendation on the book. Going to have to check it out.
I have a lot of emotional stunting from childhood - traumatic parental divorce where learned my preteen identity wasn't important but using us kids as pawns in the divorce was. Did a lot of tuning out and blocking out during the fighting, throughout high school b/c I wasn't able to process those emotions then.
Always knew I needed IC but couldn't pay for it. But I think the key is to realize that while we have issues, they are fixable, or able to be handled. So when people in MLC or transitions bring these points up, we have to acknowledge that they are valid, but also that the MLCer is experiencing a high level of stress/hairpin trigger emotions.
Seeing it from that sort of detached observer viewpoint will help realize what is essential to focus on, and what might be just negativity for negativity's sake, imo.
