Thank you. I really appreciate it. I have read all of that stuff. I have lots of questions about detaching. We have been talking a bit, and I can see that I was critical of him frequently (I am more educated), and I did let him know how he didn't measure up. I threatened to leave him a lot (even did a couple of times for a month or two), and I just made him feel bad. The truth is that none of that is actually how I felt.
I really did love him, but I controlled him and isolated him so that no one else could see how wonderful he really was (because I was afraid he would leave me), which is another reason I was critical of him. I really was abusive in some ways, and this is not in line with my character or my core beliefs. I'm embarrassed and mortified that I did this to him.
