A Real Mess Pt.2

[Wanted1]

Not sure what to do about certain things: W wants to spend quite a bit of weekends together as a family - going places, going to church, even talked about going to a Texas Rangers game. Even then talked about a trip to California this summer all of us to see family WTF

Like mtb said she wants to cake-eat and play family when it suits her. You can go along with it if you want, but none of it really means anything to her, her attitude is "I'll keep doing this until something better comes along."

Yep. Been there done that. My exWW told me for a month that she thought it was best if she moved out. She kept delaying and delaying. Used the excuse that she was going to wait until after Christmas. Which probably was the right choice, I suppose. However, I was tired of playing house and family with her. It was hard as hell for me to detach for my own good. It felt like we were just delaying the inevitable. I finally told her in the middle of December that I was tired of playing house. She, of course, used that against me down the road. Blame shifting and all of that. Which is fine. I don't regret my decision to tell her that. I had hung on long enough, for me, without any noticeable change of heart or progress from her. It felt like nothing was going to change the outcome, so I ripped the bandaid off. She probably resents me for it, but in the end, it was her decisions that got us to where we are, D. I know that and deep down she probably does too, although she won't ever take full responsibility. I wonder if part of the resentment and blame shifting comes from her not getting to cake eat. I put my foot down and it wasn't on her timeline. I don't care, though. D wasn't in my timeline either when all this [censored] happened.