Quick observation from your post. Most women want the man to lead.
N: I’m going take you somewhere special tonight. Wear that sexy black dress I like. W: where are you taking me. N: you’ll find out
Niall takes her for sushi
True enough, and I did do that at times. Because of age difference and the dynamic when we got together (she was just out of college, unemployed, broke, in a new place, language barrier, and I was a successful professional) I felt like I took the lead on EVERYTHING. In the back of my mind I had this nagging sense that she'd resent me one day for infantalizing her, and in my way I tried to push her to be more independent and vocal. Apparently I made a mess of it.
M 44, W 32 T 10, M 8 D 2 Oct '18: Fantasy affair with OW1 (yes, W) Feb '19: Inseparable from new lesbian BFF Still live together but a lot of tension
