Don't ignore a threat of suicide. She needs to speak with a therapist. She may need treatment for depression.
What kind of experimenting is she doing? Are we talking smoking some pot, or taking opioids or meth? While I wouldn't be thrilled about my 16 year old smoking some pot I wouldn't consider it quite as serious as alcohol. Hard drugs or really excessive alcohol are completely different matters.
I'd also say, difficult as it is, try listening to her. Don't get defensive :
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I immediately responded: " how? By caring about you? By making sure you keep your grades up? By giving you a job? , by giving braces so you feel good about yourself?"
But ask her honestly "how is it you think I am making you feel like [censored]?"
It may just be that she's depressed, like a MLCer, and looking for someone to blame. But it might also be true that she feels like she can't live up to your expectations, or feels like she doesn't get enough of your attention, or it may be something else you hadn't even thought of. Try asking her that question and just quietly sitting with her answer.
