Midlife wife crisis6

[Wolfman]

AS thank you for the vote of confidence. I really try to remember everything you guys say while I am in these situations. I am trying to DB every moment I have. You know it’s funny after school I had my kids today and we had a great time together. My d and I get along when my w is not around. My d tries so hard to show my w she is on her side. When my w is not around we laugh and have a good time. I’m not as rigid as my w is.

SoTorn my w is getting stressed out with all of this. She is lucky though, her dad is giving her the money to buy me out and it’s a hefty chunk. It must be nice to have wealthy parents. That is something her parents have always done, throw money at the problem because he has it. Completely off topic, my w’s brother is 37 lives at home has no job, no friends and no girlfriend. He just sits at home plays video games and watches tv. He doesn’t help the father who is 74, the father mows the lawn. The reason I digress is to show how her parents have always bailed them out. They never had to struggle or have consequences. That is exactly my w. They have her money for the lawyer, money to buy me out. So yeah it makes it easy to run from problems and not deal with them. Her paerents are enablers.

LH I love a good challenge, challenge accepted. I don’t argue with her anymore, the validating has helped a lot. I do t get all worked up when she goes on the attack, I stay calm and under control. When she speaks to me I am fully engaged, the past I would have the tv on. I have gotten rid of being spiteful. I try to keep better track of all the kids activities. Man I never realized how much my cell phone could have helped me with that in he past. I keep the cursing to an absolute minimum. Did I pass the test LH?? Lol

IH I remember that scene. That was a funny scene. That is part of my new motto. Just be nice. It’s funny my friends and family keep telling me why am I so nice to her with the hell she is putting our family through. I just respond I can’t change her. But being nice is showing I am under control and she doesn’t affect me like she use to. “Be nice” works because I don’t fuel her fire. She has even made comments about that too. She has said things in the past, “what your not going to yell?” “Oh now you are Mr. Zen” that’s my favorite. “You are not going to run out?” Just to name a few.