Uhhh!!! I can't take this anymore. This will be the 8th or 9th time W has asked me to take off from work to watch our S1 to alleviate my MIL which I understand, and want to help MIL. W has been frequently taking off of work the last 5 months between Dr's visits Again if you read my sich... W had me miss 3 days of work over the last 4 months for Gastric Bypass consultations, but failed to commit to the actual surgery and blames me for it, because apparantly she doesn't trust me enough to care for S1 for perceived month recovery time.) Plus I've taken off of work 5 more times in addition to alleviate MIL and W for FIL who has dementia and Dr's appointments. Plus anytime I have a rain day, and Im off from work, I volunteer to watch S1 to alleviate MIL. So I have missed quote a few days, and am losing $$$ to prepare for whatever moves I need to make in the near future. We have even had my brother and niece baby sit for a week (Whom my W never liked or trusted, until now when she needs something, to watch S1 because of all this.
I have had the discussion, that I want to help MIL, love to help, and love spending time with S1 several times with W for these circumstances, but there needs to be limits, and advanced notice, and some time sharing for these circumstances. While living under the same roof, she still puts the responsibility on me that its my obligation to take off to watch S1 as a father should for his son, despite it being W and my MIL's issue. I have suggested to W several times over these circumstances that moving forward, we need to find a baby sitter. Im tired of being the built in yes man baby sitter. On the other hand I don't want to be an ingrate, because MIL has watched S1 for last 1.5 years.
After being minimal to NC other than logistics for 6 months. She only reaches out when she needs something from me. Im so sick of it. Like how many times do I have to say "I'm happy to help, but there needs to be limits, and every time I try to enforce them, or at least balance them, I get the "He's your son too" guilt trip, Im sick of this manipulation, But I want to be there for S1 too. This boundary needs to have some teeth and limits, I just don't know if it will bite me in the behind later.
Not once have I asked W to take off of work for the same reasons, but she has not only used all sick days for her own personal reasons, and family reasons, but expects me to take off to "balance" her absences.
