Stop snooping! There are no big moves to make. You are living in separate households and she is getting her ducks in a row to file for divorce. There was no bad timing on your boundary because you didn’t set one. Please read up on boundaries or ask questions here.
If you want to set and stick to a boundary start with enforcing the statement you made regarding don’t call me unless it’s about finances or the kids.
W: blah blah blah tires you did this blah blah blah C: I’m sorry about your tires but this doesn’t pertain to the kids or finances. Gotta run.
