Does he play up the "nice guy" routine around others? Everyone you know would say he's a super nice guy, but behind closed doors when no one is around he treats you like a leper? He'll eventually do the same thing to OW, but right now he's on his best behavior. She's being fooled by the "nice guy" facade.
He is a nice guy, at least the man I married was. When the affair first started I was treated like a leper. Yep,she doesn't know his depressive side. I'm sure he doesn't see her faults too. Her marriage isn't that great either. To him, she is so shiny!
