So so new to this :(

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Nyla,

Sorry you find yourself here
Many posters will stop by soon to share their experience with you

You have 3 kids and I would seek Legal help immediately
Please do not move or sign anything until you get advice from a good L.


Make sure the kids stay safe
The MLCer becomes a terrible parent even if they were once a great dad
They ignore the kids and/or can put them at risk
usually the affair partner may also have serious issues

I would not allow the kids to be with them

How old is your H?

MLC will take many years-2-7 and some longer

My advise would be to put yourself and your kids first and get legal help right away-
don't tell your H you got help-yet
Take your name off his credit cards and separate money before he gets most of it-
They overspend and have no concern for their future
they only want to play --now
like a teen

The MLCer usually rewrites history, and displays a lot of the behavior you wrote about

they usually pick sick partners who they feel they can rescue

Do not listen to anything he says..
The crises is not about you or the M
It is about him and his issues unresolved from younger years in childhood--but he cant see that
he can only see a life that seems fun, less responsible and they are pulled to try to fulfil what was lost in themselves
it never works and usually they become broken and worser as time goes by
you cant stop him or the crises

The good new is:
Many LBS find their way out of the mess to a better life-

Grieve, get support, get legal advice, keep posting and be there for the kids
they will be hurt by him moving out
take care of you get sleep, eat, rest, read, find a group of woman you can share with or a church or spiritual way to deal