I am with DV and Adam. By all means offer him a drink. Chat and be friendly. DB'g isn't just about detaching. It is also about becoming the best version of you (i hate that phrase) and the best version of you is a confident, attractive Hope who doesn't let her H's mood effect her. Offer him a drink. It is what a confident attractive Hope would do.
As for sexual advances, leave him to that. When it comes to our sitchs (and I would say this to you if you were a man) is it is our job as the LBS to be attractive. It is their job to make the advances.
H and I don't talk about our sitch to anyone who is connected to us through the children. No netball friends parents. No football friends parents and no parents we know through the schools. Some people know but most don't. Those that know will never ask. It is an elephant in the room. We let the elephant be. No-one will ever actually ask you about it. We are all too polite (or is that just the British?!?!).
