If you can't beat em, cheat em (thread 2)

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If you are planning on proving infidelity in court, I would suggest hiring a PI. Although infidelity does nothing in the courts here, I hired a PI to confirm my WWs affair.

I knew it was happening and like wanted said, it was all consuming to me. Thats all I thought about for months. It hurt me so badly to know she was doing this.

Once I confirmed it did lift a weught off of my shoulders in some sense. Because even though I was apmost sure, I still had doubts and her gaslighting me gave me those doubts. I felt there could be a chance she wasnt cheating and that it was all me.

So when the PI confirmes my suspicions, it allowed me to fully understand that she was wayward and that she was acting like she was because of her A.

I stopped all snooping, started DBing like a madman and eventually got to the point where my focus is only on the kids and I.

The only reason I would agree with you trying to get confirmation is if you are doing it to protect yourself legally and not doing it for any controlling reasons.

You arent going to be able to scare her into stopping. You wouldnt want her to come back to you because she was forced to by threat of a nasty D. So if you go that route just keep all the information and how you got it to yourself until you need it.