Thanks for sticking with me everyone. Neffer, I initially laughed at the "piecing" comment and thought "are we?"
Maybe. I'd been holding off on pressing about questions and opening up with her. I've been in IC every week the 3 months. I told my IC that I don't know if it's really over. She laughed and said that you are so bold I'm surprised that you haven't asked her. I laughed when she said that and thought "you're right". I went home and asked. I didn't want details of everything, but I figured I needed to look her in the eye and be sure. We talked about it a bit. I probably need everyone's advice on how to verify/ensure but I'm ready to move on. I'm tired of playing detective. I'm ready to be free of the weight of all this.
W is home every night, we've seen her family quite a bit, she's been around mine a bit and everyone has said what they needed to, with the exception of my mom. She hasn't seen my mom yet and that is a looming issue. W has apologized to me, but I'm not pressing to constant apologies from her. She got me a card and a couple things for my birthday. It was a tough read on the card but it was very heartfelt. I do find that we are getting along quite well, but we are getting used to a new way of "fighting". I find myself trying to remember to not get too high or too low based off of this relationship with W. I do want to go slow, but obviously my emotions are building towards her. So I'm trying to temper that for the time being b/c as you all know your world can turn upside down in a minute.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.