This is a great opportunity for you to practice detachment, also called differentiation.

He is in a mood. It is not your fault, and it is not your job to fix it. Don’t let his mood affect yours.

Have a great lunch with your friend.

And repeat after me, “not my circus; not my monkeys.”

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16