Wife is having an affair and wants to separate -2

[Niall11]

Don't lie for your W. Don't be an apart of her story/lie she's coming up with. She want to lie to her family let her do the lying. If she gets man about being caught or her family finding out, that means she know she is wrong and she should be up front with them and deal with the consequences or stop.

Next time, she ask you to tell her mother or any other person in her family a reason for her doing something, you should say, "If you want your mother/family to know where you are going to be you should tell her/him. If he/she ask me I won't lie, I don't know where you are going to be and that will be my answer, I don't know". You don't owe her anything, and you not need worry about her reaction to whatever the consequences that land her lap.

And here's a little secret, she's going to blame you no matter what happens or how her family finds out.

100%.

I don't believe my W is in an active affair (could be wrong but that's the latest info), but she's basically ignoring our D2 and going out with a friend or two 4 or 5 nights a week. Her parents used to live 2,000 miles away but moved here after our D2 was born and live about 10 mins from us.

One night recently wife was out (she came home about 3 am when she gets up at 6 for work). Around midnight MIL called me. Very unusual. They never call late. She said they needed to work out arrangements for the next day and W wasn't answering her phone. Could I put her on the phone? "She's not here right now. No, I don't know where she is." MIL was shocked that W was out past midnight on a Monday and that she hadn't told me where she was going. They have no clue W has checked out of the marriage. If only she knew, W has been out late multiple nights a week for months.

Next day MIL gave W grief for being out late and W was miffed at me. I said, "Why are you mad at me? You're the one who didn't answer your mom's calls for six hours?" She said I could have told them she was feeling sick and went to bed early. Or that she went to a movie. (Apparently less objectionable than being in a nightclub every day.) I told her, "I'm not going to lie for you."

W is in for a rude awakening when I'm gone. She thinks her parents will watch D2 while she continues to go out. If she tries that they'll read her the riot act. They're very family-oriented people who NEVER go out late.