We have our anniversary night coming up. Im excited about the restaurant, but not excited about sitting across the dinner table from her and picturing OM depositing his seed into her.
There's not really any point in continuing this charade. If you know 100% that she's having an A and she's still pretending she wants to work on things, then I agree with Steve that it's time to put a stop to it. Calmly tell her you know about her A and that there will be no dates, no anniversary celebrations, and no pretend marriage anymore. She will deny and when she does you simply tell her not to make it worse with more lies and deception and then WALK AWAY. When she wants to know your "proof" just tell her it's enough that you know and that's all that matters. DO NOT get drawn into a defensive position, or into an R talk. Make your statement and leave the room or even the house. This will be a tough thing to do but this situation will eat at you like a cancer until you make a stand.
