After all this time, you must surely be happy to see improved communication and more contact from H. I hope you are able to reign in your expectations and go with the flow.
For a second let's assume that H is "waking up" and on his way back to "normal". That is a long journey upon which any time he gets scared, he'll retreat. You've heard all that before, I know, but sometimes it needs to be resaid at specific moments. This I feel is one of them. So still assuming that is what is happening, it'll take possibly a year before the connection is constant, real and fully felt by him. That's all going well. this is important for two reasons. Firstly you have loads of time, so don't rush things. It needs to unfold at his pace for it to happen. Secondly if the LBS latches on too quickly or too hard, the WAS has second thoughts. Not because it's not what they want, but just because they can't handle it yet. So any rejection or pulling back does not necesarily mean it's a negative sign. Treat it more as part of the journey.
So I think you just need to carry on as you have been. Stay open to communication and contact, but don't push for it. don't be always available either. Definetely don't change previous plans if H suggests meeting up.
As Andrew pointed out, there is the possibility that it is just a sporadic moment of connection before going back to no contact. But even if that is the case, take heart from the fact that H felt comfortable enough to do so. That is positive.
I know it cannot be easy to not Wonder about all the what ifs and contemplate all the ways this could play out. It rarely goes as we foresee so best not to waste time trying. Better to keep on living, focused on you and D.
Be patient. Give this the time it needs. I have my fingers crossed for you and send you best wishes along your path.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together
