How do you know if your spouse is leaving crumbs, plan B-ing you, or if it is truly from the heart. I guess in our situations you always assume it is the former, right?
H was upset that I moved his things out of the MBR. Not that I did it, but that I didn't tell him. I validated his feelings. At first he said he was going to move asap, but after calming down he said he understood why I did it.
He told me, "I never said our relationship was over, that I wanted to end things. People separate, work things out, and get back together." We talked abut how hard it is to navigate through life when there are memories everywhere you look, every corner you turn. He said that the good memories far outweigh the bad. About our dream of owning a summer home, he said "we may still have that, who knows?" That his biggest fear is that he will leave, want to return in a month or two, and that I will have moved on, and he will realize what a mistake it was, that he will lose..... Plan B, right?
He also stated that I don't know anything about his relationship with OW, he said, "Maybe it's over with her, maybe I ended it."
Believe nothing, right?
I honestly think he is depressed. I asked him and he said maybe he is, that he just feels numb inside, and he has probably been depressed for 20+years. This is not the first time we have discussed this, but it was the first time he admitted it.
I'm trying not to fall into a trap here....Trying not to gobble up those crumbs. I will continue to do my thing, GAL is good for me.
