Attracting the WW back ?

[gzabetas]

AS its true, they are not the person we fell in love with.
Dont know what happened to that person, but my IC who also treated my WW before me told me to consider the old wife dead and gone. She has been replaced by another being and that I need to start mourning her and move on.
That was the cold truth.

And as you yourself I think wrote on an earlier post today 9 out of 10 times the LBS wont want the recon if its suggested in the future. I believe that.

IH I know the feeling. I think it was the thought of my kid that saved me.
One day , like right after BD, I was returning home from teaching at a local college, and the thoughts were there to end it.
An ambulance came in the opposite direction and the sound of it brought me to my senses.

Later on at home I told my wife how close I had come to ending it. And get this, she said "Yeah I heard the ambulance and thought it might be you". And she said it with the apathy of finding out you need new tires or something trivial.
That was also an eye opener.

People are not what movies and books talk about. They are alot more complex and dangerous.

As both of us are fathers lets prepare our kids to not get their hearts broken.

One thing I told my wife in our last days is (we have a son btw and she got custody)
"You better hope our boy doesn't meet someone like you and get treated the same way you treated me one day. He is soft like his father, so keep an eye on him".