Provided you DB correctly, you will get to where AS talks about. It is a long hard road. Again, its a marathon and not a race. Allow yourself to feel, but don't react to what she does or show her your emotions. It hurts. But you will eventually get to the point where you see her from a different perspective. You deserve so much better than someone who is willing to put you to the side for their own selfish desires.
She isn't going to just snap out of it and come back. She has to first recognize her own issues, acknowledge them, work on them and then want to come back. Nothing you do will change that. But yes you can shine that light back on the path for as long as you want. That doesn't mean you accept being plan B. You got this. Just keep focusing on yourself.
One of the big wake-up calls for some WWs is the realization that to the OM they are just a piece of meat. That the OM is able able and willing to move on to the next piece of meat. A lot of times as soon as the WW, after the LBH has confronted them, starts putting the pressure on the OM for a bigger commitment, and the OM moves on. SOMETIMES that will wake them up.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
