Are there any actual statistics here? I know people will talk around them, but given that my wife is cheating with a married coworker, what are the actual odds that we can make it? I want to look at this as rationally as possible when trying to compare it to "what I want". A lot of the statistics don't seem to take gender of the cheater into account, for example. 5% odds of us working this out is a lot different than a coin toss.
The odds are low, but not for the reasons you are thinking. One of these days you are going to process the grief and emerge from the post-BD fog. And what will you see? A pathetic, cheating, lying woman that isn't worth your time. Someone who trampled on your feelings, who violated sacred vows she made before you, her family, her closest friends and even God for what, a little sexual thrill? You will see her for who and what she is and you'll want nothing to do with her. Ironically it's usually when you get to that point that the cheating WW realizes what she's losing and wants to recon. 9 times out of 10 it's the LBS that isn't interested at that point.
