I agree LH, had we known then what we know now, we would have been a better position to negotiate and fight.
Curtis, I know right? I certainly am getting better sleep too. That was a big step up.
And I was a guy who almost swerved my car into a tree to stop the pain at my worst.
Things that helped me were:
"She is not your wife. She has fired you. She is abducted by an alien. She will monstrify you" (this forum)
Remember back to when you first started dating her. You were whole. And happy. (this was a lightbulb for me) We were self sufficient for a long time in our lives. Plus God knows we wouldn't have put up with their crap. Thank God I was able to mentally go back and assume I was starting to date her. And I realized I wouldnt. Not this way.
B.D in December 2018 Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019 Divorced May 2019 H (me) 49 W (her) 29