Well, perhaps predictably, he hasn't reached the agreed deadline for submission of financial information.
I've had a stream of nicey nicey texts just lately about the house and offering to help. So I put my stubbornness and pride to one side and asked him to be here whilst the energy performance survey was one. He agreed and sent me a text letting me know it had all gone well etc etc etc and offering to assist with the viewings.
When I arrived home I found a large envelope with handwritten message on it. Couple of things he has said wound me up / made me see the light.
He redirected his post and the post office has also redirected a fair amount of mine. He opened it and it has then taken 3 weeks to let me know. No apology.
He commented that he hasn't heard from my solicitor. I think this is a reference to the divorce petition which he has asked to pre approve before submission (regular practice apparently!!!!) Well he will know if he engages his brain that I can't do the petition because he has the original marriage certificate and the 1 that I ordered was sitting in the redirected post.
Then went onto say that he has been thinking about the land assets and it is only fair that I have a share as "our finances were predicated on it paying off the mortgage" No s**t Sherlock. It's called the LAW and it's called 50%. He also said he would be working on his management accounts this weekend. That is approx 10% of the information that he should have submitted.
Sent a text asking for some clarity: are you wanting to settle without the full disclosure / court intervention or are you saying that you will not have done the disclosure form by the deadline agreed by you? Well surprise surprise, no response.
So, the nicey nicey was to try to ensure that I don't submit a court application this week. He knows the drill. I have a solicitor - all such communication should be with her.
I will openly admit that the smiling assassin tactic nearly worked. Have learned again to drop all expectation. The letter and divorce petition has now been scanned and emailed to Lawyer to deal with.
Obligatory smack round the head has been delivered in a kind way by eldest son and his wife and my sister.
Breaks my heart when eldest says that he and his wife have some savings and will happily pay my legal fees and when middle son rang to say he will happily buy half a future house with me so that I can get something decent. Breaks my heart but also makes me proud and glad that there are decent people in my life.
None of that is necessary because I will cut my cloth accordingly and sort it.
