I get how you are feeling Hope and how tempting it is to do what she suggests. I think offering him a drink (the way one would offer a neighbour if they dropped by) is perfectly fine. The sexual advances, however, would send the wrong message, IMO. It would smack of desperation and also fully cement you as Plan B. I think either response would be difficult for you to deal with so I wouldn’t put myself through it, if I were you. If he rejects you, you end up feeling crappy about yourself and you look less attractive to him. But what if he doesn’t reject you, you ML and then he carries on the next day as if nothing has changed between you. You also end up feeling rejected and also mad at yourself for giving up on the progress that you have already made detaching. Impatience is the number one enemy of LBSs. It has killed many people’s chances to R. Don’t give into it. Detach, detach, detach... for you. There is light at the end of the tunnel. At the very least, you will get you back. (((HUGS)))
