Gordie 23 one year after she dropped the D

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i don't think it's possible to forgive W and be done with the forgiveness thing.

I think you will have to start over everyday.

I have a friend whose H came back after two years. She is a serious Christian. Her story of faithful standing was almost miraculous, and her H even came to Christ when he came back, and they have given talks at marriage restoration conferences.

But even with such a sure strong restoration, she often tells me how hard it is when those thought darts come flying.

She told me she is able to see it as something she is powerless over, something that only God can fix, and that it will take years. She just lays it at God's feet every time, asks Him to take the burden from her every time. I think for her it is daily.