This is NOT your fault. Even if you were the worst husband in the history of the world, turning to someone outside the marriage is not defendable. There is no excuse for it, ever. She had a choice between working on the marriage, or ending it. Those are only choices that a spouse can make and remain innocent. Stepping out of the marriage is NEVER right.

So stop beating yourself up. Even perfect spouses get cheated on. Cheating is a choice made by morally bankrupt individuals. She made this choice, and when it comes to her cheating your failures as a husband DO NOT MATTER. Otherwise anytime any spouse was less than perfect it would give the other spouse permission to go have sex with a third party. That doesn't make sense.

You have to approach this from a position of strength, and taking the blame for it is not that..

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018