I'm curious - you're young enough to be considering having kids, you were together 9 years before marriage, yet you have a prenup that gives her nothing?
Mind you, I'm not knocking prenups in general - I'm in my early 60's and would never marry again without a prenup.
But that's different usually for young people just starting out, so I'm curious about the circumstances that led to a prenup so strict that she would get nothing for her contributions to the relationship for the past nine years. Did you have an inkling that she wasn't trustworthy before you married her? Did you come into the relationship with a lot of money to begin with and have you been financially "rescuing" her all this time?
Also what was her family of origin like? How old was she when you got together? Does she have a history of depression?
