This morning on the way to church H whips out his phone while driving and says he is checking his notifications and I ask who is sending you a message?! He tells me it's the OW and knows that it would make me mad. I paused and knew this was the time to say something. I said that she consumes his time and he rather spend it with her than have a relationship with us (me and the kids). I told him that he is an adult and he makes his choices to continue the affair, but I don't want to share my husband with another woman. I don't want an open relationship/marriage. He responded saying he did not want to talk about it. That's his usual defense..."I don't want to talk about it." As soon as we get to church he stays in the car to send her a message.
Well I thought I was making progress in detaching but even though I calmly I expressed my feelings, I was hurt and silently cried on the car ride.
I made sure to use the word "affair" when talking about him and the OW because he has denied their friendship being an affair. Umm, married people don't tell other people of the opposite sex that you love them and are meant to be together.
