(((Yorkie))). Fourteen years together was hard enough... I cannot imagine how much harder it would have been with 13 more years together. Of course this is hard... of course you have cried a lot of tears and are still crying. You are grieving...properly...for a life that was worth grieving. That life isn’t over though. You will get through this and find your way. H may be in your future, he may not. No one can really say for sure. But the H he is now is not the person that you fell in love with. That guy is gone unfortunately. I felt the same way... that some minor adjustments on both sides could have made a big difference if only I had known. But I didn’t know and he didn’t tell me. He chose to disrespect you and your marriage and cheat on you instead. Big time character flaw that it appears many people have. Yes...he has downgraded. My H did too. Your H’s life is not easy Yorkie and it will only get harder once the novelty wears off and he has no choice but to take stock and recognize what he gave up and walked away from. Ultimately, you cannot divorce yourself. Do what you feel is right but DO NOT sacrifice your financial stability. Time and space will take care of your feelings. Focus on yourself and what you need and please, please, please do not beat yourself up. You truly are AWOAFWL. Believe it!!! Sending you lots of long distance (((HUGS))). xo
