Hi Hope. My thoughts... I know exactly how you feel. I felt the same way at the beginning of my sitch. The reality is, though, you can’t really control what H says or does and you shouldn’t try to. Going out with your friends is a great idea. You should and you should have fun. I think you are right... talking to him about what to say to people is exactly that...the opposite of detached.
Honestly... worrying about what people think is just another worry you don’t need right now. At the end of the day... who cares what they think? How does that hurt you? The reality is that most, if not all, people know someone who is going through similar situations. I found that when I stopped worrying about it and talked to people, the response I got was understanding and support. It’s not that I went around talking incessantly about it to random people but I did eventually talk to most of the people who I see regularly and it lifted a weight off my shoulders. Think about how you would feel if someone you knew was going through the same thing. Would you judge them? Think unkind thoughts? No you wouldn’t. And frankly, anyone who would, is not worth worrying about anyway.
Hold your head up high Hope. You have nothing to be ashamed of. Show the world what a strong and competent woman you are and stop worrying what other people will think. (((HUGS)))
