I love all this advice but get hung up on a couple points:
1. Personal growth - working full-time, coming home to help with kids and house... there is not much time left over. I'm reading a ton of self-help books and listening to podcasts when I commute. Not sure I can jump into a new hobby right now or anything involving a larger time commitment. I did start reaching out to some friends I lost contact with, which has felt really good.
2. Focus on where you've contributed to the deterioration - I'm sure this is common here, but I feel like I've tried to communicate and apologize for my part. But without feedback and communication it is really hard to know at this point. I have asked W to share her feelings, let me know what she needs, but she communicates nothing back. Housework and childcare are sticking points - but I feel like I have made some steps and they are likely not the only issue here. I know she wants to go back to work and I've tried to be supportive. It's easy to start chasing that feeling of "if I just fix this..." but I don't even know what to fix, and I'm not even sure it would help.
I'm kind of left with focusing on #1 (which might be a major component of #2) - this whole situation definitely has me anxious, stressed, a bit depressed, so maybe working on that first will have positive spill-over into #2?
