Thank you P Jam. You’re right my mind reading skills leave much to be desired . It’s good for me to be reminded that I do not in fact have any idea what is going on in his head, and therefore should stop trying to figure it out. My frustration and sadness got the best of me. Plus the fact that I’m up on a year now. To your question Allison, that was always the deadline I gave myself. I was going to give it up to a year at the very longest and then file if we weren’t getting anywhere. Thing is, i didn’t eve think of the possibility that we might get somewhere, it just soundly be very far from where we were. The fact that I’m now up against my self imposed deadline, I feel very anxious and mixed up inside. I don’t know what’s right. Do I give up on a marriage I still want despite the fact that there has been (very minor) progress? Or do I stay married to someone who very well may not have any desire to be married to me but is just too lazy/avoidant to do anything about it a year later? It feels like an impossible situation. I guess I’m having a hard time letting myself off the hook of the deadline I created.
. It’s good for me to be reminded that I do not in fact have any idea what is going on in his head, and therefore should stop trying to figure it out. My frustration and sadness got the best of me. 