Gosh, that sounds like a very vulnerable thing for him to have done, Alison. And I think you handled it well. Please don't get your hopes up too much, my dh made a huge effort during his busy time and I had hopes that would continue and things would improve after he had recovered, but actually in some ways he has withdrawn more since then. I don't think people recover that quickly after a prolonged period of stress.
I know exactly how it feels to want that feeling of being desired. And actually last year before BD I did feel that from dh, so very confusing but it was lovely to feel wanted and now I miss it even more than when my marriage wasn't going well and I didn't have it. Every so often I think maybe I will just move on and find someone, and then I check myself and think patience dilly, patience. 5 months is not that long, I'm coming up for 9 and just now realising that if we R it will still be a long way away. Sigh. The milestones are possibly the most difficult, if it gets to September and things haven't progressed a lot with my sitch then I can't see how I could keep standing. Then again, if it gets to our 25th anniversary in July without improvement I can't see that either.
Stay strong, keep your expectations low, be assertive but kind. Wow, that is all so hard isn't it?
