This sounds hard, Blu. I am reading your situation very closely because my H has been saying pretty consistently for months that he wants to work on the R and get back together. I don't trust him, I don't seem to be able to get myself to a place where I'd be able to trust or forgive him, and I think he's probably in the same place - wanting to repair things, but not able to make the leap. Sometimes I wonder if it would be better for both of us to let go, pull the plug and start afresh. Do you regret your decision to R?