It is hard for me to wrap my brain around how someone who was in love and wanting our marriage to work in November of 2018 has now decided in May 2019 that he is ready for divorce. And to do it in such a sneaky way shows me what a coward he is.
I looked back and I filed on May 6, 2016 and now he has filed May 2, 2019.....AND our anniversary is May 19th
Not sure if he will ever hit rock bottom, I think he will continue to run hard and fast because that is most certainly a place he will not be comfortable going to.
Unfortunately we did not do a separation agreement (we don't have children and no property between the two of us, and we already had separate accounts)......not sure if we can/need to do one now as H has filed. I need to look into that.
I am certain that H will try to get as much money as he can from me. I mentioned in a previous post when I first came to the boards after I had filed, that his father told him to "take me for everything I had"...…...I'm sure the sentiment still applies.
He is struggling financially and has gotten himself into some debt around $20K (not including his truck payment), and he struggles to make ends meet monthly, so I am sure he is looking for me to be his "cash cow" and bail him out.
I really do hope that a judge will at least take a look at his spending habits and determine that it is not up to be to help him with all of that. However, my state is a community property state and since I sold the house he is entitled to half of the proceeds, that amount will take care of his debt and also leave him with quite a bit left over. I think he might also be entitled to other savings I put aside.
THAT is what is really making me upset. He spends like crazy, I save for our future, and now he gets half of the money and I did not get to reap any of the benefits of his spending.
My plan is to look for other lawyers.....maybe someone will be a bit of "bulldog" and fight for what I deserve.
