I am sorry about H’s secret filing for divorce. My XW filed secretly as well, I found out when I was served the divorce petition from my lawyer. She still, 7 months later, hasn’t mentioned it or brought it up with me or the kids. Of course the kids all know. It’s a bizarre relationship she built between them with that unsaid. MLC is a strange weird irrational thing.
You are correct, nothing you can do to stop it or him. He hasn’t hit rock bottom, still running hard and fast.
I like that you are open to changing lawyers, you might want to explorer a few more lawyers, depending on what separation agreements you already have in place. As you stated, you are now entering the next phase. It is probably the biggest financial decision of your life, doesn’t hurt to have a few different professionals look things over, and then go with whomever is best for you.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
