Dealing with a complex MLC and/or Wayward Wife #2

[DonH]

I think all of us on here don’t truly realize the pain our WWs were in to leave. I know my ex gave up a lot. She got way lesser of a house, she doesn’t get invites to mutual friends parties, the security of my job and pension, use of my family cottage which she loved. Everyone thinks she’s crazy for leaving that all behind so that just tells me how unhappy she was the last 3-4 years. I had a lot to do with it even though it wasn’t my attention. My needs weren’t being met and her needs weren’t being met and we didn’t have the tools to figure it out together. Both of our parents have crummy relationships so guess what we modeled.

Wow LH19, very self-aware and very honest to say. It's so much easier to say that our WAW or WW was crazy and manipulative and a cheater and all of the rest when in fact it is likeky much more like you spell it out here. And that takes guts. It also hopefully goes a long way toward preventing it from happening again.