Well H did file for divorce. Not that he let me know, I found out by looking at the district court website. I called him and of course he did not answer and I also texted and of course no response.....not surprised by the lack of acknowledgement. I'm sure his lawyer (and his mommy) told him not to respond to me.
For me that is a HUGE slap in the face and so disrespectful on so many levels and speaks about his character. It also shows me what to expect from him moving forward.
Job.....Just like everyone else going through MLC, H thinks that the path he is on is the right one. He honestly feels like he has done so much work on himself and is in "such a better place" especially since he has gone to one year of IC. But in all honestly he is still running hard and fast. I'm sure he has his family and friends telling him that everything he is doing is right. I really hope he does come to terms with himself and his truths one day.....right now he is not anywhere near those truths. In my mind he still has not hit "rock bottom" despite what he thinks and is still living with so much fear, shame and guilt.
Peace......I contacted my previous lawyer and plan to have a phone call with him next week. I have not been officially served since he just filed today. I am not sure if this same lawyer will be a good advocate for me in the terms of trying to not let H take all of my money. When I filed last time I wanted to put 'infidelity" as the reason for divorce but he said that was not a good idea, so I didn't. I am going to need someone who is strong because I have a feeling that this could get ugly.
As difficult as it was to learn about him filing, there really isn't anything I can do to stop it. I know that I will have periods where my anger will get the best of me, and that is when I will need to reach out to friends, family or come here to vent.
